Today, I was feeling all sorts of emotional, and needy. What was it I was needing? A hug would have been great. A REAL hug. not one of those "I'm afraid to connect to another human being in person" kind of hugs.
There is a lot of research out there showing how beneficial and super important it is for people to get so many good hugs in every day. I'm pretty lucky if I get even one. Add to that the fact that my primary love language is touch, and actually I can get pretty drained and feeling needy quickly if I can't get a good hug fix. I read somewhere in one of those articles about how human beings need hugs, etc that there are some places even setting up hug clubs. I'll tell you what, as long as the people aren't creepy, and they take a shower a few times a week, I'm in.
Too bad when your home teachers come over and ask what you need it would be inappropriate to say, well actually I really need a hug. Visiting teachers can meet that roll. So that's good. Once a month, I can get an OK hug. Nope, not doing the job.
Today was beyond hug club though. Probably because I've been in introvert mode full blast, and haven't really wanted to go to major social events lately, plus the emotional weird place I've been since a few blog posts ago, I kind of did that push people away thing again. Sorry, I just think you all will probably abandon me some day, with increasing likely hood the more honest, open and myself I am. I try to convince myself other wise, but, you know how it goes. Any way, I do have a few friends I haven't pushed out of my space. Some of them are really not into hugs though, and some of them live in Utah.
So here I am, depleted to levels beyond the rescue of Hug Club, well, maybe. I don't know. I don't even know where my local hug club is. Should I start one? would you join? I have reached a level of hug depletion so desperately low I am willing to organize one.
And I was feeling this way at work and all, so I reached out and started talking to one of my work friends in Utah about it. She was feeling the same way, but at that point we took it a level further, and decided someone needs to make a place called Cuddlebuddy.com. Because sometimes, Like for me today, a hug club really probably isn't enough. Oh no, we've reached the NCO level here. You've heard of a NCMO? Non Committal Make Out session? it was a big deal in college, but never my thing. But cuddling was. mmmm watching a Rom-Com and cuddling with a guy that was great. Loved the NCO. (non-committal cuddle out). I miss those days. Today I could really Use a NCO. I could use CuddleBuddy.com.
I don't want anyone to make out with. I'm not looking for a random hook up with a stranger. I just want someone to come over and hold me close while we laugh, and cry through a Romantic Comedy. Then they can go home and we can be done till next time. I mean, its great when a cuddle buddy is a friend, but that always gets complicated and they may think you want to date them. I think I previously stated where I am at in wanting to date, so that's not gonna work for me right now. I still need a cuddle though. I'm still human, I need touch, its my love language. it makes me feel human, and loved, and helps me to love myself better. I know this is awkward, but I'm just awkward, so deal with it. Maybe you feel the same way? I don't know. I think a lot of my single friends do, whether or not they admit it. One friend doesn't seem to feel that way, I started to tell her about Cuddlebuddy.com, and she was like, get a body pillow, hug your dog. and I was like, no dude, I need someone to hug me back! but she likes to cut off all feelings and emotions, and she doesn't like hugs. so Cuddlebuddy.com isn't for everyone.
My other friend and I decided this song would make a great theme song for Cuddlebuddy.com though. Its perfect. Forget one night stands, Sam Smith, all you really needed was Cuddlebuddy.com. And this song, I think says perfectly what all us cuddlers are lacking. Its not love, we just need someone to hold us for a bit.
Well, after all that, I decided to come home and see if cuddlebuddy.com already exists. There is one, and only one site. the people on it seem kind of shady, so I will just continue my drought. But, I think they explain perfectly what I was trying to say in their about page... http://www.cuddlecomfort.com/site/how Well, I'm going to go repress my emotions now. Have a great night.
There is a lot of research out there showing how beneficial and super important it is for people to get so many good hugs in every day. I'm pretty lucky if I get even one. Add to that the fact that my primary love language is touch, and actually I can get pretty drained and feeling needy quickly if I can't get a good hug fix. I read somewhere in one of those articles about how human beings need hugs, etc that there are some places even setting up hug clubs. I'll tell you what, as long as the people aren't creepy, and they take a shower a few times a week, I'm in.
Too bad when your home teachers come over and ask what you need it would be inappropriate to say, well actually I really need a hug. Visiting teachers can meet that roll. So that's good. Once a month, I can get an OK hug. Nope, not doing the job.
Today was beyond hug club though. Probably because I've been in introvert mode full blast, and haven't really wanted to go to major social events lately, plus the emotional weird place I've been since a few blog posts ago, I kind of did that push people away thing again. Sorry, I just think you all will probably abandon me some day, with increasing likely hood the more honest, open and myself I am. I try to convince myself other wise, but, you know how it goes. Any way, I do have a few friends I haven't pushed out of my space. Some of them are really not into hugs though, and some of them live in Utah.
So here I am, depleted to levels beyond the rescue of Hug Club, well, maybe. I don't know. I don't even know where my local hug club is. Should I start one? would you join? I have reached a level of hug depletion so desperately low I am willing to organize one.
And I was feeling this way at work and all, so I reached out and started talking to one of my work friends in Utah about it. She was feeling the same way, but at that point we took it a level further, and decided someone needs to make a place called Cuddlebuddy.com. Because sometimes, Like for me today, a hug club really probably isn't enough. Oh no, we've reached the NCO level here. You've heard of a NCMO? Non Committal Make Out session? it was a big deal in college, but never my thing. But cuddling was. mmmm watching a Rom-Com and cuddling with a guy that was great. Loved the NCO. (non-committal cuddle out). I miss those days. Today I could really Use a NCO. I could use CuddleBuddy.com.
I don't want anyone to make out with. I'm not looking for a random hook up with a stranger. I just want someone to come over and hold me close while we laugh, and cry through a Romantic Comedy. Then they can go home and we can be done till next time. I mean, its great when a cuddle buddy is a friend, but that always gets complicated and they may think you want to date them. I think I previously stated where I am at in wanting to date, so that's not gonna work for me right now. I still need a cuddle though. I'm still human, I need touch, its my love language. it makes me feel human, and loved, and helps me to love myself better. I know this is awkward, but I'm just awkward, so deal with it. Maybe you feel the same way? I don't know. I think a lot of my single friends do, whether or not they admit it. One friend doesn't seem to feel that way, I started to tell her about Cuddlebuddy.com, and she was like, get a body pillow, hug your dog. and I was like, no dude, I need someone to hug me back! but she likes to cut off all feelings and emotions, and she doesn't like hugs. so Cuddlebuddy.com isn't for everyone.
Well, after all that, I decided to come home and see if cuddlebuddy.com already exists. There is one, and only one site. the people on it seem kind of shady, so I will just continue my drought. But, I think they explain perfectly what I was trying to say in their about page... http://www.cuddlecomfort.com/site/how Well, I'm going to go repress my emotions now. Have a great night.
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