Dear Prince Charming, You stolen my heart, then left me on the shelf. What gives?

Since I am finished writing my novel I thought I would treat you all to a little "fairy tale" of sorts. Enjoy


Once upon a time, in a land far far away lived a not so young princess, who was single and had come to the realization that her father, the king would soon die, and she would be left to reign and rule alone. Her father was a kind and goodly king, who, although he encouraged her to do so, never forced, or compelled her into some awful arranged marriage situation, as he didn't want to be responsible for having his daughter marry some great weenie, he wanted her to be responsible for that.  
  The daughter, who didn't feel like she was very interested in marriage in her younger years was quite grateful to her father for this, but as the time of his death drew near, the weight and burden that would come with ruling alone started to press upon the not so young, but very beautiful princesses mind.  She came to the conclusion on her own that it was time she seek for her prince, and  continue on the family line so that some evil step cousin didn't get to rule and terrorize her beloved people upon her own death.  
  The Princess decided that she did want, however, to choose a great and noble prince, equal in talent and intellect to herself, adventurous, brave, respectful and of course attractive.  
   Sorry, slight interruption here, but no one really wants to marry a toad. Just remember there is a butt for every seat, as my dad says, and therefore some one to find every type attractive in some way, so I am not saying every man needs to be Taylor Lautner in the looks department, don't get me wrong. The princess just wanted someone she didn't find repulsive, and that she actually wanted to kiss.
  At any rate, it was time, and she knew what she was looking for. She had the king send out a proclamation to kingdoms far and wide, inviting princes and noble men to come to meet the princess and see if they were a compatible match. There were some peasant impostors dressed as princes, but by their very manner the princess weeded them out. 
  Four Princes came, the first from an Island kingdom in the midst of the sea. The princess found him very tan and muscular and attractive. He was an absolute hottie, but  she soon found that he treated her with respect only when the other knights and members of the kings court were around. She soon sent him packing back to the Island he came from. 
  The second prince arrived dressed in shining armor. He was everything the princess ever thought she could possibly want. Gorgeous, financially set, his own kingdom was in order, and  he loved adventures and made her laugh. He also appeared to love her. She had so much fun, she thought this was for sure the one, but duty called the prince back to his kingdom, and once there, he soon forgot about the princess and went on in single life with no further desire to seek marriage.
 The third prince came also from a far distant kingdom,  He wrote many letters to the princess, and sent many gifts and servants to the princess as he came on his way. With his letters and gifts he began to win her heart. On paper he seemed perfect, and so fun, she thought surely she would love his personality as much in person. But alas , When the prince arrived the princess found him to be quite dull, and unimaginative, and sadly, unattractive. Which, she thought was quite a shame as she had so set her hopes upon this one.
  Just as the third prince had arrived so had another prince from a very near and neighboring country. She had known him some what during her life, and thought he was indeed handsome, though not quite as much as the second one. His kingdom had great potential but was currently suffering an economic set back. He had great talent, and skills, he loved learning, and adventure, and dancing. 
  The princess was swept off her feet. To be kind she sent the third prince away. The fourth prince soon had won her absolute affection and adoration. One night, he snuck into her room in the middle of the night and kissed her gently on the lips. She was under his spell. 
  In that instance, the prince stole her heart, quite literally through his spell which was in his song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j82FBbgpUy4&noredirect=1 Her heart now belonged to him. She was in a sort of dream like waking slumber from that moment on, and was only truly alive when the prince was by her side.
 A sudden problem in his country, called the prince away quite unexpectedly, but he promised he would return soon, as he also adored the princess, but he did not return her heart at this moment. Without him everything she did seemed very unimportant indeed. She wrote him daily letters, and he wrote daily replies.  

 His letters contained enough magic to bring the princess to vivid life again for a day at a time. Worried about his daughter, the king found an enchanter who provided her with a soothing song and dance that also made her more lively when the letter wore off, though never quite as good as the prince himself could do. She would often listen, and make up a dance routine in her head. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtVh8kVZ_XM. 
Upon hearing this the prince swore he would return and dance at the ball with her to the song she so loved as soon as he could take leave of his kingdom. 

  Before he could reach the princess, he was overtaken and captured by her evil cousin. Not knowing that he was captured, and fearing he had abandoned and forgotten her as the second prince had done, the princess wrote one short last message to her prince "Dear Prince Charming, You have stolen my heart, then left me on the shelf. My kingdom in now in great peril. Why do you not return? What gives? Have you also forgotten me, my love?" 
 The princess of course did not hear back from her prince, but despite his captivity he tried to send rays of sunshine to keep the princess somewhat lively until he could hopefully return to her. She would feel this occasionally, and begin to hope, and then it would wear off and she would feel quite sad and alone. The princess soon wondered if she had been cursed by the enchanter, and was destined to always loose the princes she thought she loved, and always receive the adoration of those she didn't.
 Upon her fathers death she found a way to continue on her reign, and make the kingdom run, but she wondered if she had been forgotten and left on the shelf, like a dented can of baked beans, covered in dust, spending till her expiration date waiting for her prince to come. 
                                         Not the end, but that is where we will leave off for now. 


How many of you girls have ever felt like that princess?

Singles and Self Marketing: Am I Date-able?

occasionally I have days, Usually when I am sleep deprived and feeling particularly unattractive, where I ask myself questions like am I date-able? or am I marriage material? I think this is a question all single people ask themselves every now and again, hopefully not super frequently, because you should really not over dwell on that, but it is a good thing to consider every now and again if improvements in your character and personality can be made. 
I had this confirmed tonight as not just a girl problem when a guy friend of mine (not who all you out here are thinking I promise, it was a surprise one.) texted me to ask if he was Date-able.  In conjunction with this topic, a few days ago I had a discussion with a friend about how sometimes I feel like I spend all my time and energy having fun and socializing, and I wish I had something of more importance to do with my life, like take care of cute little kids of my own. 
 My friend at this moment chose to point something out to me, and that is, if I want to get married and have kids, then right now I need to be having fun, socicalizing, and developing talents so someone wants to marry me. basically she said, I am doing what I need to, and publishing it on facebook and in blogs is really a form of marketing. Previous to that I had mentioned a conversation with another friend. Last week this other friend mentioned how people like to make up stories and talk about her and her personal life, because she doesn't share that with them. 
What I learned in my studying of political science is that interacting with others is politics, whether it is trying to get something you want from someone else, trying to convince the opposite sex to date you, or marry you, convince people to be your friend, or to not be friends with your enemy (if you have enemies, I don't), or just trying to get people to spend time with you, or help you do your calling and give a lesson, all of it is politics.
 we need conflict resolution skills just as sharp as the U.N.,  We must do P.R. as great as any ad agency. I must be as good a spin doctor as any politician on The Hill.  If I don't want people to fill in the details of my personal life with those they imagine, I must give them enough to satisfy human curiosity, but not so much as to  be TMI, and then they will leave me alone. If I want someone to date me, or be my friend I must present myself as such a person as people enjoy spending time with. now, all of this may seem a bit fake, but in reality you can be your total real self, and be honest, but you do not have to show your whole self to everyone all at once.
 Being single you must master self-marketing, putting forth your best qualities, and improving upon them constantly so that they are seen, and taking your worst qualities, and editing them out of your life, and your strange qualities that you want to keep, and keeping them only for your VIP club of most trusted friends and associates, because if you want to keep those qualities, the person who you marry, and your closest friends will have to love that part of you, but sometimes its best to take your time and see if they can be trusted with those most sacred parts of your personality, rather than "casting your pearls before swine"  this is my observation this week. 
So my single friends, good luck, as my friend told me that night, being single is a part time job. time to forget yourself and get to work, and go have fun till you drop, just make sure you post it on Facebook, so those nights you went to things even though you wanted to stay home, sleep, and be a hermit are not in vain. But remember, the most important thing is to become like the kind of person you are looking to marry, to become like the kind of people you want to be friend with, because as it says in Doctorine & Covenants 88:40 " For intelligence cleaveth unto intelligence; wisdom receiveth wisdom; truth embraceth truth; virtue loveth virtue; light cleaveth unto light; mercy hath compassion on mercy and claimeth her own; justice continueth its course and claimeth its own; judgment goeth before the face of him who sitteth upon the throne and governeth and executeth all things."